The rules for being human

You will receive a body. You may like it or hate it, but it will be yours for the entire period this time around.

You will learn lessons. You are enrolled in a fulltime informal school called life. Each day in this school you will have the opportunity to learn lessons. You may like the lessons or think them irrelevant and stupid.

There are no mistakes, only lessons. Growth is a process of trial and error, experimentation. The "failed" experiments are as much a part of the process as the experiment that ultimately "works."

A lesson is repeated until learned. A lesson will be presented to you in various forms until you have learned it. When you have learned it, you can go on to the next lesson.

Learning lessons does not end. There is no part of life that does not contain its lessons. If you are alive there are lessons to be learned.

"There" is no better than "here." When your "there" has become a "here" you will simply obtain another "there" that will again look better than "here."

Others are merely mirrors of you. You cannot love or hate something about another person unless it reflects to you something you love or hate about yourself.

What you make of your life is up to you. You have all the tools and resources you need. What you do with them is up to you. The choice is yours.

Your answers lie inside you. The answer to life's questions lie inside you. All you need to do is look, listen, and trust.

This will often be forgotten, only to be remembered again.

There are things that never change

As time goes by
Casablanca OST

A kiss is just a kiss, a sigh is just a sigh.
The fundamental things apply
As time goes by.
And when two lovers woo
They still say, "I love you."
On that you can rely
No matter what the future brings
As time goes by.
Moonlight and love songs
Never out of date.
Hearts full of passion
Jealousy and hate.
Woman needs man
And man must have his mate
That no one can deny.
It's still the same old story
A fight for love and glory
A case of do or die.
The world will always welcome lovers
As time goes by.
Oh yes, the world will always welcome lovers
As time goes by.


It's hard to keep track and balance between what is important and what it's necessary; between what you need to live and what live to need  and between what you believe in and what really rules your life.

Yet there are things that always stay the same: Friends, the fact that you're made to love someone, the fact that you need both physical and mental stimulation (Naginata, here I come πŸ™‚ ), the need for stability and the need to explore and expand your horizon.

It takes a minute to have a crush on someone, an hour to like someone, and a day to love someone...but it takes a lifetime to forget someone!

Choices, Choices and more Choices

Don't cry to me.
If you loved me,
You would be here with me.
You want me,
Come find me.
Make up your mind.

Should I let you fall?
Lose it all?
So maybe you can remember yourself.
Can't keep believing,
We're only deceiving ourselves .
And I'm sick of the lie,
And you're too late.

Don't cry to me.
If you loved me,
You would be here with me.
You want me,
Come find me.
Make up your mind.

Evanesence - Call me when you're sober

I did a quick scan on monster last night. I found out 9 things that I would like to do. The question is both whether I should or not and when should I do it.


Choosing and deciding what I want to do is becoming more and more of an issue for me lately. I'm working some residual anger and sadness over breaking up with Sara but that's only part of  the reason why I'm directionless right now.

More Choices

I decided that I was not going to push for Graduate School for Fall '07 and delay it to Fall '08. I'm positive it was the right choice but, on the other hand, it's the same slope I got on for my Master's and look where that left me... a semester away from having the 7-year rule applied to me πŸ™‚

Even More Choices

One thing I realized is that I need to be very careful with diferentiating between immediate/short term goals and goal setting/long term goals and plans... In confusing one with the other it makes everything harder than it needs to be.

Choices Can Be Tricky

Battlestar Galactica. Season 3 premiere

Show me what it's like
To be the last one standing
And teach me wrong from right
And I'll show you what I can be

Say it for me
Say it to me
And I'll leave this life behind me
Say it if it's worth saving me

Nickelback -- Savin' Me

I have to give it to Ron Moore, David Eick and their writing staff. They've done wonderful Science Fiction. It's still too contemporary for me to accept it as Battlestar Galactica, specially since I grew up with Richard Hatch's Apollo and Dirk Bennedict's Starbuck, but it is the difference that makes it so attractive as a science fiction show.

The Cylons occupied the colony of New Caprica. President Gaius Baltar surrendered the colonies and the fleet lead by Admiral William Adama, commander of the Battlestar Galactica, and Commander Lee Adama, commander of the Battlestar Pegasus, fled rather than be destroyed. The Cylons led by the human like models have pretty much subjugated the colonial survivors into almost slavery under the guise of a new attempt .

Some humans have decided to resist and form an underground. Some of the Sharon and Six Cylons start having doubts and it all evolves into a game of punch and counter punch where the Resistance hits and the Cylons hit back.

Meanwhile the Galactica's Fleet has its own problems. Admiral Adama (a wonderful portrayal by Edward James Olmos) is pushing his people harder than they should and his son calls him up on it and chastisizes him when 2 pilots die in a training accident after being out in space for more than 11 hours. 

When things come to a head Admiral Adama decides that the Pegasus under Lee Adama would lead the fleet back to New Caprica and rescue as many of the survirors as possible. The survivors are getting ready to "distract" the Cylon overseers to facilitate the rescue attempt.

The sabotage and redezvous with the rescue party is betrayed by Colonel Tigh's wife who believes that it's the only way to save his husband from death, or maybe worst. One of the many Boomer clones has sworn loyalty to the human fleet and leads the attempt to contact the new caprican resistance.

I don't want to spoil the episode any more than I absolutely have to but I have to say that it's some of the best screenplay and directing I've seen in a long time.

Against Death Penalty

From: Amnesty International <[email protected]>
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Date: Oct 10, 2006 3:25 AM
Subject: The Death Penalty: A Failure of Justice


News Release Issued by the International Secretariat of Amnesty International

10 October 2006
The fourth World Day Against the Death Penalty: Executions as a failure of justice

Thousands of people in numerous countries will mark the fourth World Day Against the Death Penalty today by calling for a world without executions.
The theme for this year’s day, organised by the World Coalition Against the Death Penalty, is "The Death Penalty: A Failure of Justice".

Amnesty International said that the countries that use the death penalty do so in a manifestly unfair manner in violation of international laws and standards.
Amnesty International and the World Coalition Against the Death Penalty want to bring attention to the appallingly low standards of justice used in the application of capital punishment in many countries. This is another compelling reason why the world must turn its back on state judicial killings.

The day highlights failures in the judicial systems of China, Iran, Nigerian, Saudi Arabia and the USA; all of which are failing to meet the standards required by the international community – via numerous international treaties – when using the death penalty.

Amnesty International believes the death penalty is never acceptable and every execution constitutes an extreme violation of the right to life. The organization also said the violation is exacerbated when human life is taken by the state via an unfair judicial process.

China has executed persons who later transpired to be innocent after the alleged murder victim reappeared alive and well.

Iran is one of only two countries which currently execute child offenders -- the other being Pakistan.

In Saudi Arabia foreign nationals face discrimination and disadvantage from the judicial system, often being tried in a language they do not understand.

The USA has sentenced individuals to death who clearly suffered from mental health disabilities.

In Nigeria a woman was sentenced to death after a trial at which she had no legal representation.

To take human life after such appallingly low standards of justice makes the case for the abolition of death penalty all the more compelling and urgent.

However, the momentum for a world free of executions gathers pace and 2006 has witnessed further progress towards a death penalty free world, with the Philippines and Moldova having abolished the death penalty. This takes to 129 the number of countries that no longer have capital punishment in law or practice.

Once abolished, very few countries consider reintroducing executions. However, the authorities in Peru and Poland are currently considering attempting the retrograde step of amending their laws to bring back the death penalty.

Amnesty International said that the World Day provides advocates of the death penalty the opportunity to re-examine their support for this outmoded form of punishment. The movement away from the death penalty has been dramatic and the small minority of states that continue to execute should ask themselves what is achieved by such a brutal act as the killing of a defenceless prisoner.

The World Day Against the Death Penalty will be marked by the launch of the Anti-Death Penalty Asia Network (ADPAN) at events and activities across Asia Pacific, including in Seoul, South Korea, where a parliamentary bill to abolish the death penalty is currently being considered. The network of activists, NGOs, civil society groups and lawyers from many countries across the region -- including India, Singapore and Japan -- aims to draw attention to the inequities and unfairness inherent in the administration of the death penalty by appealing on individual cases and campaigning to support national and regional initiatives to end capital punishment

In relation to the situation in Asia Pacific, Amnesty International said that it is a region that has bucked the worldwide trend to abolish the death penalty. The organization is working with ADPAN to urge Asia Pacific countries to abolish the death penalty and warned that even periods without executions can quickly and apparently easily be ended – as seen in Indonesia where a state firing squad executed three men in September 2006 after fifteen months with no known executions.

Asian countries that have taken a lead on the death penalty include the Philippines, which abolished the death penalty in June. ADPAN will campaign for other countries in Asia to make real their pronouncements to respect human rights, through the protection of the most fundamental right of all: the right to life.

Background Information

The World Day is organised by the World Coalition Against the Death Penalty (WCADP) a coalition of over 53 organisations, including Amnesty International, bar associations, trade unions and local and regional authorities which have joined together in an effort to rid the world of the death penalty.

The World Day will be followed by the Cities for Life event which takes place on 30 November. Cities for Life is an annual event involving the illumination of public buildings or other localities that symbolically represent the community in cities and towns around the world, as an affirmation of the value of life and a sign of opposition to the death penalty. Cities for Life is organized by the Rome-based Community of Sant Egidio, with the endorsement of the World Coalition Against the Death Penalty.
Take action: Sign the World Coalition petition asking these governments to halt executions as a first step towards the abolition of the death penalty.

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Reflections on a Wedding

Forget what we're told
Before we get too old
To show me a garden that's bursting into life
All that I am All that I ever was
Is here in your perfect eyes,
They're all I can see

I don't know where
Confused about how as well
Just know that these things
will never change for us at all

Snow Patrol -- Chasing Cars

The church where the ceremony was held I know it's odd but weddings always make me sad. One more of my friends has got married and I'm still single, either because of choice or because of whatever the hell is going on in life. It was a beautiful ceremony, the church was amazing, judge for yourself :-). It was nice to reconnect with all the people whom I haven't seen in so long, and to meet the otherside of Alex's family

There are so many babies among my YAF friends... I can't believe Ryan is almost 2 and a half years old! Man, where has time gone since I last hung out with them?

Alex and his best men waiting for the bride Someone once asked me are we growing up or growing old? and weddings pull that question out from the attic every so often. What's the difference between the two? More and more of my friends are getting married and having babies... heck from my highschool gI'm the only one single (not counting my friend who got married and then divorced) and/or not in a relationship and, you know what, I'm still totally ambivalent as to whether that's what I want or not. In an ideal world I would date ocassionally and then move back to being a bachelor when relationships became a burden but this is not an ideal world πŸ™‚

Derek Wang and Christine
Derek and Christine

Jon Earley and Ducky Chen
Jon and Rebecca

Hellen and George Gong
Hellen and George

Decisions have been very prevalent in my mind lately and they don't seem to be getting any easier or any more important.

My and Alex, the bride and groomBack to the ceremony. It was short, sweet and to the point. It was so sweet that it made me teary... The poerm Alex picked was so him, so much him it was almost funny.

It's impossible now to think of Alex and not picture him together with My. In the 6 years I've known Alex the only constant in his life has been her.

Oh my gosh, am I married yet?Sure being married does certainly change the dynamics of friendship but I don't think they'll change too much, specially not with Alex. Sure being married does certainly change the dynamics of friendship be as it may, there comes a time when you have to make choices and those choices may or may not be the popular ones (dang, there we go with choices again).

My, Alex... may God give you happiness and a long life together. May He rain his blessings upon you like you've done over so many of us during the years.