Reflections on a Wedding

Forget what we're told
Before we get too old
To show me a garden that's bursting into life
All that I am All that I ever was
Is here in your perfect eyes,
They're all I can see

I don't know where
Confused about how as well
Just know that these things
will never change for us at all

Snow Patrol -- Chasing Cars

The church where the ceremony was held I know it's odd but weddings always make me sad. One more of my friends has got married and I'm still single, either because of choice or because of whatever the hell is going on in life. It was a beautiful ceremony, the church was amazing, judge for yourself :-). It was nice to reconnect with all the people whom I haven't seen in so long, and to meet the otherside of Alex's family

There are so many babies among my YAF friends... I can't believe Ryan is almost 2 and a half years old! Man, where has time gone since I last hung out with them?


Alex and his best men waiting for the bride Someone once asked me are we growing up or growing old? and weddings pull that question out from the attic every so often. What's the difference between the two? More and more of my friends are getting married and having babies... heck from my highschool gI'm the only one single (not counting my friend who got married and then divorced) and/or not in a relationship and, you know what, I'm still totally ambivalent as to whether that's what I want or not. In an ideal world I would date ocassionally and then move back to being a bachelor when relationships became a burden but this is not an ideal world 🙂


Derek Wang and Christine
Derek and Christine


Jon Earley and Ducky Chen
Jon and Rebecca


Hellen and George Gong
Hellen and George


Decisions have been very prevalent in my mind lately and they don't seem to be getting any easier or any more important.

My and Alex, the bride and groomBack to the ceremony. It was short, sweet and to the point. It was so sweet that it made me teary... The poerm Alex picked was so him, so much him it was almost funny.

It's impossible now to think of Alex and not picture him together with My. In the 6 years I've known Alex the only constant in his life has been her.


Oh my gosh, am I married yet?Sure being married does certainly change the dynamics of friendship but I don't think they'll change too much, specially not with Alex. Sure being married does certainly change the dynamics of friendship be as it may, there comes a time when you have to make choices and those choices may or may not be the popular ones (dang, there we go with choices again).



My, Alex... may God give you happiness and a long life together. May He rain his blessings upon you like you've done over so many of us during the years.