The idea on this video has been resonating with me for the last few months. I've heard it from different people at different places and for different circumstances. The closer I get to "the date" the more this message is starting to resonate. If you can't fully commit to something; if you can't give something or someone your fully undivided 100% attention then say no. If you're going to do something half assed then why bother doing it at all? You have better things to do than waste your time.
The worst of it all is that you're not doing the people you're trying to help a favor either. Your not being there 100% is actually hurting the people you're trying to help. What do you say no to? How do you say no?